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You feel stuck in your unhelpful repeating patterns at work or in personal relationships. You either fear abandonment, feel trapped or feel like on a rollercoaster when in a relationship. You struggle to connect with your authentic self. You finally want to create harmonious relationships for yourself, and your family and have meaningful connections with yourself and people.

Your journey to secure attachment begins here...

Secure Foundation coaching

What is Integrated Attachment Theory?

Attachment styles are patterns of behavior and interaction in relationships. They are characterized by how people relate to others. Integrated Attachment Theory is trademarked work that overlaps the focus of traditional attachment styles with other key factors including:

A) Core Wounds & Belief Patterns

B) Relationship Needs & Expectations

C) Emotional Patterns

D) Boundaries (Relationship to)

E) Communication Patterns

F) Behavioral Coping Mechanisms


Attachment Style Types

Secure Attachment

Anxious Preoccupied

Fearful Avoidance

Dismissive Avoidance

  • As Anxiously Preoccupied Attached you normally have a subconscious fear of abandonment, resulting in feeling insecure, unsafe, or anxious!

  • Your Relationship needs are to encompass a lot of validation, encouragement, and feeling seen and heard.

  • Your biggest fears are constantly feeling not good enough, being rejected or disliked, and being abandoned in some way.

  • You tend to people please to avoid conflict and want to resolve it as quickly as possible even by compromising.

  • You Often put others' needs and opinions before your own, tend to be great leaders, and work well in teams.

  • As Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized) Attached you usually shift between being "hot & cold" and often confused about your feelings.

  • Your Relationship can often feel chaotic and confusing as you swing between anxious and avoidant.

  • You are often afraid of being betrayed, unworthy, disrespected, and feeling unloved.

  • Your coping mechanisms result in testing, withdrawing to decompress, stonewalling, spitefulness, criticism & emotional volatility.

  • You're not afraid of conflict once upset, set boundaries from a place of emotions and need emotional depths, passion and trust in relationships.

  • As a Dismissive Avoidant, you have difficulty with emotions, intense emotions feel overwhelming and they tend to pull away from people.

  • You fear a lot of being defective, trapped, ashamed, not opening up, helplessness & power.

  • You often set extreme boundaries through actions and may fear conflict when setting boundaries because you feel trapped when violated.

  • You desire understanding when needing space, avoidance of emotional reliance, and unchanging independence.

  • You also have a high need of autonomy, harmony, freedom, appreciation, certainty, and support.

  • As Securely Attached, you're confident in their ability to love and secure in their ability to receive it.

  • You are good with meeting your own needs and communicating vulnerably, at the same time are empathetic towards others' needs.

  • You are consistent, emotionally balanced, good with communication, with healthy self-esteem, and are comfortable with setting boundaries.

  • Your core wounds are less intense and less activated and you're great at self-soothing when feel emotionally charged.

  • You're comfortable with vulnerability and asking for support from others.

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